Single is not a dirty word
Table for one is justifiable
Dinner and a book are adequate
Liking my own company
Having time to ponder and reflect
Finding varied interests
No emotion based responses
Making decisions based on reason
Maturing gracefully
Alone but not lonely
I get along with me, better than anyone else!
ReplyDeleteI require lots and lots of alone time per day. I've always craved that - a solitary soul. My son is the same way. I'm glad you're finding a peace in this.
ReplyDeletewait, is your dude around, is he OK?
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely picture. It tells the story of a person well loved and taken care of... by yourself. Honored and cherished, in solitude. Lovely, CiCi!
ReplyDeleteThere's a big difference between being alone and being lonely.
Some people are born loners. Like me :P
ReplyDeleteUsed to think that people would be in my way to anything I want to reach.
But I must agree with DJan. There is a difference.
Even evil darklords get lonely too :)
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ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear the latest, my friend. Hang in there!! Single but not alone.
ReplyDeleteThe key to being able to enjoying your own company is being comfortable within your own skin! Took me a long, long time to acquire that ability and there are still days when it escapes me, but we're all entitled to "slips" here and there, aren't we? Of course, being comfortable within one's own skin is a valuable asset to have in any kind of relationship too so it works well all the way around.
ReplyDeletei think that single is def not a bad word or world at all...i think our lives are in big part what we make of it...
ReplyDeleteSorry, I made a typo. I'll go again...
ReplyDeleteLooking back, I realize I made some poor decisions when I was bored and/or didn't want to be alone. It is a common mistake to depend heavily on the "outside" to get one's needs met. In my humble opinion, self-reliance and self-love are not selfish goals, but are the building blocks of a satisfying life whether alone or in a relationship. Another excellent post!
Ms.A, actually that speaks volumes to me about your sense of self. Good for you.
ReplyDeleteLiz, I have had little alone time in my life. Discovering that time by myself is calm and can also be productive is a blessing right now.
Gary, no and no.
DJan, it is helpful to see things through your eyes. Thanks.
Shadowthorne, I know you are a loner and happy in your own skin. You had to learn that and I admire that you did.
Kristina, thank you. You are very kind.
Jeni, Six months ago I was lonely. Sad. In order to be healthy I had several conversations with myself and changed my isolated life. The friends who I met and can count on now are a gift.
ReplyDeleteBrian, being single is like being my own person but not necessarily selfish. I have time for some of my own endeavors and I am more forgiving of myself too.
Stickup Artist, looking outside myself to get validation is a thing of the past. I am able to look myself in the mirror, see the real me, forgive the mistakes and like who I am becoming. What a change from a year ago.
I have always and probably will always...need alone time. I do very well on my own and LOVE going out to eat by myself. A good meal, a good book...and nobody chatting along about inane subjects that I could care less about.
ReplyDeleteAin't I weird? lol People always tell me I am...
Not liking to dine out alone must be a female thing. When I dine out alone it doesn't bother me at all. All that bread and butter just for me!
ReplyDeletealthough we are virtual your blogging friends are here with you. I was just reading about a growing company that caters to women only traveling. There are has been a big increase in women only travel. Yes I know that's not the same as being single but the point is there are more and more single adults. all the best.
ReplyDeleteMy mother-in-law lost her husband 2 years ago, and I actually think she's enjoying this time to be totally selfish and only look after herself. She keeps very busy, and goes on solo holidays etc.
ReplyDeleteJust goes to show that no matter what is going on in your life, there's always something to be learned if we're open to it. You seem to be. It's good to see that you are discovering something wonderful about the person you are and the strengths you possess.
ReplyDeleteYou've got the right attitude CiCi.
ReplyDeleteYou're doing a great job, CiCi. I admire your attitude and positive outlook.
ReplyDeletexo jj
I am glad you are in a good place right now, CiCi, you appear to have struck a happy balance. Yes, we are social creatures, but equally, living alone with a calm, tranquil and satisfying life far, far outweighs sharing it in a turbulent and stressful way, with another who often sucks the life from your day.
ReplyDeleteI have a really good feeling things are are only going to get even better and better for you, dear lady!
Akannie, I so admire women who enjoy their alone time and don't need people to bring cheer to their lives.
ReplyDeleteI have been alone so little in my life that it is a new experience. There are many possibilities and I have been trying new projects and using my imagination and enjoying it.
Stephen, since restaurants don't have gluten free bread with that good butter, I don't eat the bread anyway. I think there is something in the training of my generation about dining alone being a bad sign.
Bill, good idea about the women grouping together for travels. In my town there are many widows. Our Friday morning Needlers club is a great time for the women to chat while we work on our projects. I will write a post about it soon. And I appreciate your kind words about online friends.
Joey, I have been enjoying the occasional reference to your mother-in-law in your blog and happy for her determination to live life fully and happily since her husband passed away.
Terri, it still does surprise me to see that I am doing okay, better than okay.
Abby, thanks for the nod my friend.
Joanna, you know how far I have come. Thank you for your encouragement.
Shrinky, that is a good way to put it: a happy balance. You know what turbulence is as you learned as a child, so you also know how important peace is.
Thats a good place to be.
ReplyDeletePlease yourself...... spoil yourself........ no one to answer to.
Maggie X
Nuts in May
Getting to know ourselves! The one person who will never abandon us or do us wrong!
ReplyDeleteah, Cici, i don't know how I missed it, but I am sorry for your troubles and good job moving on.
ReplyDeleteI love your determination. Keeping you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteAlone does not mean lonely although I've hated it when people refer to me as a single Mom! :)
ReplyDeletePerfectly fitting my life. I'm with Ms. A, better off by myself, especially these days. Nicely written and very much enjoyed. :)
ReplyDeleteI have been away from blogging for some time, am hoping you are doing well and that all is going along smoothly and happily for you!
ReplyDeleteI'm very happy for you, CiCi.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful table...