tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post1967780696144667089..comments2023-10-08T06:26:22.121-07:00Comments on Liquid Mind, Sanguine Soul: Yo, DadCiCihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02466038341689494316noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-33531972307819046312012-06-23T13:56:42.436-07:002012-06-23T13:56:42.436-07:00Addiction is such a horrible disease because it di...Addiction is such a horrible disease because it dishes out pain to such a large circle. It renders families helpless. It's a good thing that you have chosen to be forgiving. <br />There are no perfect fathers. Even those who appear to have good relations have their disagreements.<br />Brave post. HugsHeidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-51075871232398702382012-06-18T20:17:12.018-07:002012-06-18T20:17:12.018-07:00Very touching, CiCi. I'm glad you've grown...Very touching, CiCi. I'm glad you've grown into the strong, wise woman that you are. I suspect that your father would be very proud of who you have become despite your difficult upbringing.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787493532006658679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-29307071858459287382012-06-17T07:07:47.011-07:002012-06-17T07:07:47.011-07:00Bill, holding on to resentment is so unhealthy and...Bill, holding on to resentment is so unhealthy and does nothing positive for either party. My dad had problems but he tried in his own way.<br /><br />Stephen, breaking the chain is difficult but oh so healthy, isn't it? <br /><br />Ms. A, yes I did love him with all his faults and learned not to be disappointed by his actions.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02466038341689494316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-90204865916677671032012-06-16T19:48:58.858-07:002012-06-16T19:48:58.858-07:00The fact that you loved him, in spite of the perso...The fact that you loved him, in spite of the person he was, says so much about the person you are! Bless you.Ms. Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06263882972749791087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-44932532089603226902012-06-16T13:04:40.750-07:002012-06-16T13:04:40.750-07:00Your post is an excellent example of the benefits ...Your post is an excellent example of the benefits of forgiveness: you don't forgive someone for their sake, you do it for your own. It's apparent that you have broken the circle of abuse and pain that you were raised with instead of passing it along. You are a remarkable person.stephen Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659054447637207734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-54720017034852874532012-06-16T12:35:53.463-07:002012-06-16T12:35:53.463-07:00CiCI your reply comment is as good as the post so ...CiCI your reply comment is as good as the post so I'm glad I browsed over after you replied. Very honest emotional post. Good to know you released that bitterness. <br />"...the strength and resolve to accept people as they are not how I want them to be." - so trueBill Lislemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187273560129198423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-82192797669272624312012-06-16T09:17:23.528-07:002012-06-16T09:17:23.528-07:00Brian, for as long as I can remember, I would watc...Brian, for as long as I can remember, I would watch other parents with their kids and soak it in. Of course, as a child, I thought other families were perfect. I am still just as fascinated with the inner workings of families. I have learned I cannot speak for my brother, but for myself and I let go of what I feel I missed out on and instead focus on what I learned and how I am now because of my growth and lessons learned. <br /><br />DJan, letting go of hurt and disappointment has given me the strength and resolve to accept people as they are not how I want them to be. I do believe that my dad loved me the best he could. <br /><br />Jeanie, you and I have much in common. Watching a parent living in the alcoholic haze as a way of life is a sad thing for a child, and then when I was around 10 I became angry. One day I yelled at him and it felt good. <br /><br />Ina, I grew up believing that my relationship with my dad was not based on the relationship between my mom and dad. They fought all the time. As a young adult I would spend time with my dad and my mom would be so upset about that. I just wanted some sort of relationship with him. I am sorry you still have the bitterness to deal with within you.<br /><br />Jeni, we hear such extremes in our relating our stories to each other in blogland. It is sad that you did not have a chance to know your dad. Did your mom remarry? Was there a dad person for you? <br /><br />Debby, it was not perfect or even close to happy but it was what it was and I learned life lessons that are a help to me now.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-32633640536338268652012-06-16T08:57:46.061-07:002012-06-16T08:57:46.061-07:00Love your honestly. I am sure he loved you and kno...Love your honestly. I am sure he loved you and knows you loved him.<br />Sorry it wasn't perfect.((HUGS))Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-86081224554792257232012-06-16T08:18:44.380-07:002012-06-16T08:18:44.380-07:00I never knew my Dad as he died of cancer when I wa...I never knew my Dad as he died of cancer when I was less than a month old so as a result, I suppose I grew up pulling little traits from the fathers of friends, from my uncles too, over the years, as being things I wanted my kids to have, to know. It's been a long, often difficult road, for my kids to develop a relationship with their dad, who in many ways was a lot like your Dad. I am however very thankful that now -after my being divorced from him 32 years this month now -that my kids have been able to establish a decent relationship, albeit long-distance, with their Dad. He and I even get along fairly well now too on the rare occasions I happen to answer a phone call from him or that he comes east (he's in Nevada; we're in PA) for a visit. Being able to accept one's parent and learn from their mistakes, their shortcomings, is a rough road at times, yes, but really important to finding peace within one's self too though. (I've done that over the years now but with my Mom -32 years gone now too!)Jenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425701332785470116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-83291838174460441812012-06-16T08:11:28.143-07:002012-06-16T08:11:28.143-07:00Wow, powerful post.
I terminated my relationship ...Wow, powerful post.<br /><br />I terminated my relationship with my dad after he left my mother for another woman (he is now married to her for over 20 years). I found this to be extremely dishonest and disrespectful I have no respect for his wife because she knew he was married when they met. We do encounter each other at family events but I am pretty cool to both of them.<br /><br />I am pretty bitter and pretty distrustful of men due to this. And I was 30 when all of this came about.Ina in Alaskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07163454431322742148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-62218333939036957032012-06-16T06:49:54.343-07:002012-06-16T06:49:54.343-07:00My father was also an alcoholic, though usually fu...My father was also an alcoholic, though usually functional. He also died young. Like you, I know my father loved me, but I will always wonder what our relationship would have been without the alcohol.Jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04810126999695733332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-27925157553959127352012-06-16T05:18:35.233-07:002012-06-16T05:18:35.233-07:00Your father was flawed, there's no doubt, but ...Your father was flawed, there's no doubt, but you have moved beyond all those childhood tragedies into a mature, smart, and thoughtful person. And he gave you half your genetic makeup, so I too am willing to believe he was a good guy on some level.<br /><br />Beautifully written and recalled, CiCi. Thank you for sharing it this Father's Day weekendDJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1296769989261398998.post-3969859939739899402012-06-16T04:04:53.099-07:002012-06-16T04:04:53.099-07:00very honest...i think in many ways each dad falls ...very honest...i think in many ways each dad falls short...i am glad you know he loved loved despite his failings...and that you can say you loved him too..Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com