"Imagine all the people living life in peace. You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.
I hope someday you'll join us, and the world will be as one. "
~John Lennon

Saturday, July 5, 2014

People's Secrets

There are lots of things I don't do well, but one that I can do well is keep a secret. Through my life anyone who gets to know me learns that I am trustworthy. Just as it is not in me to take something that does not belong to me, I do not divulge something someone shares with me in confidence. I don't go out of my way to encourage people spilling their guts or opening up to me, but when it happens I am aware of my place as confidant and respectful of the information being shared with me.

What is it about humans, in particular women, that lifts a load a bit when we have a friend to share some hurt or even a joy. Sometimes someone has surprised me with a big sigh and told me something from the depths of their heart that I didn't know what to say or do, but just be present. Knowing when something is not about me and holding my judgment or advice to allow someone to trust me has been a lifelong experience. Trust is a huge issue for me. Maybe for a post some other day.


DJan said...

I have shared secrets I shouldn't have, and I still feel the shame of having done it, decades later. Some people are not to be trusted with secrets. I think I have learned my lessons, but don't tell me anything you don't want others to know. Wish I were more like you, CiCi. :-)

Brian Miller said...

trust is huge...it is the foundation of relationships...and having those people we can confide in is huge...we were never meant to travel this world alone...

Shammickite said...

I like to think of myself as trustworthy, and a keeper of other people's confidences.

Abby said...

From getting to know you (just) through your blog, I think I already knew this about you.

Joanna Jenkins said...

I'm with Brian on this one.
And, I always thought you would be an incredibly trustworthy person.
xo jj