This is the second in a series I am writing about a great post on the blog Weekend-Windup. The title of that post is Constructive Principles For Peace Of Mind.
The second item in this great post is "Learn how to forgive and forget."
Most of us would say we forgive freely and often to those around us who wound us. I personally don't keep track of how many or how often, I know it healthier to forgive and move on.
I thought I was truly forgiving until I realized that I did not Forget the grievance. I now realize that to truly forgive, I have to forget. Holding on to things that hurt me must have given me something, must have been a comfort in a sick way. Was I remembering all the times I was the one to hurt someone? No. Too bad, so sad if I was the one doing the hurting.
So it must have been important to me to hold painful things close to my heart and coddle and maybe even exaggerate in the mental replays.
Being honest with myself did not come easily or quickly. But thank God I am finally peeking in the door of unpretentious truth, open and honest eye opening truth.
Learning to forget the wrongs done to me is resulting in a release of resentment which is a burden I no longer want to carry.
Next time you are reminded to "Forgive and Forget", don't forget to forget to truly forgive.